why Africans in diaspora fail to carry their baby’s

Yes, I have seen them everywhere in Europe, many African women walk behind a pram, oftenly a very expensive one. Is this a statis thing? Just like a big car?

I am also an African woman who is absolutely awkward with a pram.. After I walked so often with my own babies in the sling, I came to a point where I wondered how the African woman or family transported their baby’s in Europe. Would they know whether this is or can be a norm in the West? Do they do it in, do they carry baby?

Every time I have a baby on my back, I often get positive reactions and sometimes many questions from people who do not know anything about the art of carrying baby’s. Ignorant privileged Western people who oftenly think that they are civilized than African. Such that they end up automatically correcting you wothout even them thinking whether you thought this through.

Oftenly some Western people wonder whether:

  • Wearing on my back is good for the baby’s hips
  • I’m not afraid that the baby can suddenly fall like that
  • I do not suffer from my back
  • How long I can wear such a baby
  • Until what age can I wear such a baby and from what age can I wear
  • And even more questions of which it seems best not to be known

When I answer, I give examples like, think of runners from Africa, think of little or no hip abnormalities in the elderly in Africa.

The above questions are quite right, given that babywearing is not really well practiced as the norm in Europe. An average newborn mom takes a pram. She did not learn it differently or too little example parents who walk with a carrying system.

What do African parents say themselves, including expats and diasporas

Between all those people who express the admiration, there are also African women who do occasionally make a comment such as:

  • I do this only in my home for practical reasons.
  • How brave of you that you walk on the street with a sling.
  • My grandmothers used to do it in rural areas too (you can hear a lot of people from
    West Africa or South America)
    -Is it allowed to walk with a baby in this way here in Europe?
    -I did not know you could do this outside, and why do people not do it here? and
    that goes on and on.

What appears afterwards is that African people or diaspora in general have not even thought about wearing your baby very positive. Enough thinking that they just have to do this so they can get back to work. They have never learned that wearing your baby is actually one of the best ways to bond with your baby. It has ever been suggested that carrying your baby is a sign of poverty, that is why one is dependent only on a baby car in the West.

In Africa, people think that everything that happens in the Western countries is the better, could it be the other way around?

I am going to tell the Africans I know, that they are better off using #mberekoor #Torsobabywearing slings. Nothing is more natural than how we practice it in Africa, just like animals that do not need anything else than nature itself.

Published by Humansbonded

Muchaheta was now living in the Netherlands, far away from home and her extended family. Perhaps it was the distance or the time away from her roots that led her down a path to reconciling her traditionally African approach to child rearing with the new modern European scientifically tested advice she was consistently receiving. In doing so she began to craft out a unique path for herself and her growing family.

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