You can clearly see that this is one of the times I was stopping wearing trousers. After my first ceasarean I could not tolerate trousers anymore because they were no longer ergonomic enough for me. I was now looking for trousers that go beyong my pelvis area. These are the moments when I was fighting hard to make Mbereko udjustable to different sizes and healthy and medical situations.
Through breastfeeding I ate more and had still have too much hormones that were not helping me get rid of water. So I have been gaining weight for 10 years now.
I loved to wear trousers that were not stretchy. I loved my quality jeans without having to cover my butt.
I wore shirts and blouses inside whilst going to my work. But I am happy with dresses and skirts. Trousers still suit me, but they are mostly not comfortable and the most comfortable became the pregnant trousers only, because if their belt that felt comfortable when the ceasarean scar is still sensitive.

Underswears that could not touch my scar were also better that the thongs. I hope the clever fashion people are reading so to take this idea as usual to adjust their products because I can imagine more parents may be suffering from this feeling of incesuties whilst buying clothes.

I adjusted myself quickly after realising that it didnt work anymore. In those years families and a lot of Dutch people would give me advice to go on a diet. I just could not understand the whole idea of going on a diet whilst breastfeeding. Some would say to me, noo through breastfeeding you actually lose weight. And me and nature were like 🤦🏿‍♀️really?🤱🏿.

Published by Humansbonded

Muchaheta was now living in the Netherlands, far away from home and her extended family. Perhaps it was the distance or the time away from her roots that led her down a path to reconciling her traditionally African approach to child rearing with the new modern European scientifically tested advice she was consistently receiving. In doing so she began to craft out a unique path for herself and her growing family.

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