why Africans in diaspora fail to carry their baby’s

Yes, I have seen them everywhere in Europe, many African women walk behind a pram, oftenly a very expensive one. Is this a statis thing? Just like a big car?

I am also an African woman who is absolutely awkward with a pram.. After I walked so often with my own babies in the sling, I came to a point where I wondered how the African woman or family transported their baby’s in Europe. Would they know whether this is or can be a norm in the West? Do they do it in, do they carry baby?

Every time I have a baby on my back, I often get positive reactions and sometimes many questions from people who do not know anything about the art of carrying baby’s. Ignorant privileged Western people who oftenly think that they are civilized than African. Such that they end up automatically correcting you wothout even them thinking whether you thought this through.

Oftenly some Western people wonder whether:

  • Wearing on my back is good for the baby’s hips
  • I’m not afraid that the baby can suddenly fall like that
  • I do not suffer from my back
  • How long I can wear such a baby
  • Until what age can I wear such a baby and from what age can I wear
  • And even more questions of which it seems best not to be known

When I answer, I give examples like, think of runners from Africa, think of little or no hip abnormalities in the elderly in Africa.

The above questions are quite right, given that babywearing is not really well practiced as the norm in Europe. An average newborn mom takes a pram. She did not learn it differently or too little example parents who walk with a carrying system.

What do African parents say themselves, including expats and diasporas

Between all those people who express the admiration, there are also African women who do occasionally make a comment such as:

  • I do this only in my home for practical reasons.
  • How brave of you that you walk on the street with a sling.
  • My grandmothers used to do it in rural areas too (you can hear a lot of people from
    West Africa or South America)
    -Is it allowed to walk with a baby in this way here in Europe?
    -I did not know you could do this outside, and why do people not do it here? and
    that goes on and on.

What appears afterwards is that African people or diaspora in general have not even thought about wearing your baby very positive. Enough thinking that they just have to do this so they can get back to work. They have never learned that wearing your baby is actually one of the best ways to bond with your baby. It has ever been suggested that carrying your baby is a sign of poverty, that is why one is dependent only on a baby car in the West.

In Africa, people think that everything that happens in the Western countries is the better, could it be the other way around?

I am going to tell the Africans I know, that they are better off using #mberekoor #Torsobabywearing slings. Nothing is more natural than how we practice it in Africa, just like animals that do not need anything else than nature itself.

Westernized Africa

Screenshot_20200422-103404_Picture Quotes and CreatorNature and BEING close to it plays an important role in many people’s lives. It’s just that we all receive nature in different ways according to how we grew up or how much nature was exposed to us.
Looking back at my life as a child. Life consisted of natural nature. No one tampered with nature. As a child I never knew it differently. It was part of life, all nature around me as a child and everyone else.
One may not overstand what I am trying to say. The question is where did you grow up

👉🏿Were you born and grew up in an urban town or suburb?

👉🏿Were you born and grew up in a village?

👉🏿 Were you born and grew up in both urban/City/township and village.

Well in my case, I grew up in both. It gave me a rich childhood. Each time when the schools were about to close, my dad had packed my suitcase for me to travel to our village. Our village in particular did not have any urban influences. The nature still stands. No one tries to introduce industrialisation and I pray to God to maintain that.

I can actually make a comparison between Urban, village and Western lifestyle. This describes what I have experienced, why I follow the Sun and Moon. Why I eat soil. Just who I am.

There is a difference between Human beings of today and then.
After colonialism and slavery, people were urbanised, including my parents. In the village people could go to school up to a certain grade 7. The secondary schools were either too far or there was a mission built as a boarding school where children were going up to secondary education. Colonialists designed the schools such that many people left the villages where they used their hands and brains to survive, where nature was their God.

Urbanisation took place, a lot of people left villages and started scattering themselves in urban areas where the space was limited. People had to rent a room or stay with a family member who grew up in the city.

I remember as a child that our home in the city was always full of family members coming from the village for greener pastures. Either for College, University or work.

Yet if you would look at it now. They left the greener pastures for polluted urban area, industrialized urban area with processed food. Everything there needs to be paid. Bills, taxes, food.
How and why did this happen? What was the main aim of colonialism?

The education wasn’t designed for one to start her of his own business but to work for a company owned by someone from the Western countries,.
There was now a difference between poor and rich. People started looking down upon the village people such that everyone wanted to come to the cities to work for those companies. But firstly they had to qualify. If better qualified they moved to Europe, America, UK and all other Western countries where colonialists came from,. To build up the economy there.

To make it short and clear, we are now in 2020. Knowledge is being spread. We see the sufferings.
We see dependancy syndrome, we see privileged syndrome.. Both poor because they were taught to be who they have become today.
It’s time one is taught by the village owner how to naturally survive. During lockdown, one could go to the village to work in the fields. Resting with the family. Experiencing real nature.

Muchaneta Nyanyira
Humansbonded part 2 (biography)
Picture taken this morning in Netherlands during the Sunrise
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