African Ethnic Carrying Culture

How I relate Mbereko to my personal life experience

You can clearly see that this is one of the times I was stopping wearing trousers. After my first ceasarean I could not tolerate trousers anymore because they were no longer ergonomic enough for me. I was now looking for trousers that go beyong my pelvis area. These are the moments when I was fighting hard to make Mbereko udjustable to different sizes and healthy and medical situations.
Through breastfeeding I ate more and had still have too much hormones that were not helping me get rid of water. So I have been gaining weight for 10 years now.
I loved to wear trousers that were not stretchy. I loved my quality jeans without having to cover my butt.
I wore shirts and blouses inside whilst going to my work. But I am happy with dresses and skirts. Trousers still suit me, but they are mostly not comfortable and the most comfortable became the pregnant trousers only, because if their belt that felt comfortable when the ceasarean scar is still sensitive.

Underswears that could not touch my scar were also better that the thongs. I hope the clever fashion people are reading so to take this idea as usual to adjust their products because I can imagine more parents may be suffering from this feeling of incesuties whilst buying clothes.

I adjusted myself quickly after realising that it didnt work anymore. In those years families and a lot of Dutch people would give me advice to go on a diet. I just could not understand the whole idea of going on a diet whilst breastfeeding. Some would say to me, noo through breastfeeding you actually lose weight. And me and nature were like 🤦🏿‍♀️really?🤱🏿. Thats when you start to realize that we people are conditioned to judge from one sided stories and the researches based on one group of people.

Its high time we realize that we all react differently.

I became a case study of myself. Discovering why there were not yet researchers who ever thought a woman can continuously breastfeed for more than 10 years without taking medication and purely hormones and poor lifestyle would affect her negatively.
Let alone heavy menstrual cycles during breastfeeding and low iron and vitamine D.
The most irritating part was people knew how to advice me to think about me tostop breastfeeding because it was killing me … My breasts were too big, I could not fit into any bra. All the bras I found were not ergonomic for me. They didnt have breastfeeding bras wo i stopped using them and since i carried my babies I discovered enough. So I made mbereko fit women like me by then. Mbereko became a bra for women who were carrying the baby at the back to practice sport exercises called Babycarryworkout.

 

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Once carried and breastfed always practicing

Not always does it work, for many people and for so many others it does work perfectly. When knowledgeable and used properly
When I grew up in Zimbabwe I did not know better than that life I saw in the village. The only times I did spent in the city were only those moments when I went to secondary school. It was busy so I did not learn much about the city.
When my little twin brothers were born I was 5 years old. My #mom had me as her big girl who also could help her carrying the twins. Working in the field carrying one of them.
I did not know better. I could not say no as that life seemed normal to me.
My father worked in the city and came to the village every end of the month. I started primary school when I was like 7 years. My mom was now able to move around with the twins.
I have seen my mom breastfeeding several times and I mastered that.

When my brothers were like 2 years old, my mom gave birth to a girl, mt little sister.
She is now a mom and just like our mom she does #breastfeed and practice babywearing cosleeping and washable nappies
I am definitely proud for her.💗 The bottom line of my story being.: it takes generations to adopt the same habits or a way of living.
For us we see #breastfeeding and babywearing as part of a daily life where no one needs to be rewarded or behave like a mafia.

Africans, the ones still living the real African life, do practise #naturalparenting. They do not write books nor do any reasearch of excisting and onbvious way of living. They do not need discussions whether to breastfeed or not. Whether to practise this in public or not.

They do follow their instincts. So their baby’s and next generation.

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